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Do You Have a Deal — or “Happy Ears”?
We’ve all been there: a prospect seems super interested, nodding along as you talk, and you start imagining your commission check. But not every enthusiastic nod is a done deal.
Maybe the person you’re talking to doesn’t have the authority to make decisions, or they’re just being polite. Sometimes a prospect will say they like what they hear, and want to run it by their manager or colleague. (Hint: That’s a “no,” until it isn’t.)
It’s crucial to balance your optimism — “happy ears” — with a good dose of reality. Happy ears can lead you astray, but a little skepticism will keep you on track. It can save you from disappointment and missed quotas.
But if you do tend to count your chickens before they hatch, we’ve got some recommendations for you below.
The Difference Between Happy Ears and Normal Lost Deals
Before changing your whole mindset, it’s important to distinguish between happy ears and normal lost deals.
No salesperson closes every lead and prospect. Sales is full of rejection. You’re going to get told no. A lot.
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But some reps — often when they’re just starting out — only hear what they want to hear. They fall into the trap of thinking that every prospect who shows some interest is going to close, even if those prospects are far outside their ideal customer profile (ICP). And this mindset can hurt your performance and credibility.
Why Happy Ears Are a Problem
Some of you are thinking, “I just like staying positive. There’s nothing wrong with that.”
Staying positive is great. Deluding yourself, not so much.
The Illusion of Success
Happy ears create an illusion that all is well and success is just around the corner. And that perception can make you overlook important red flags.
You might miss signs that they’re just shopping around. You could mistake friendliness for legitimate interest. You may misinterpret some pretty common phrases buyers use to avoid saying “no.”
When you do, you stop asking the tough questions. Instead of digging deep and understanding their needs, you’ll coast to an unexpected loss while thinking the deal is already sealed. This has a cascading negative effect that starts with your sales forecast.
Imagine a rep with happy ears has ten opportunities in their pipeline and feels certain half of them will close this quarter. They’ll naturally take their foot off the gas because they feel like they’re on track to hit their target. But if only two of those deals close and they miss their number, they’ll blame it on unforeseen circumstances and bad luck.
The reality is that if they had taken a harder look at their pipeline they would have realized that they had a lot more work to do to fill the early stage pipeline with more opportunities if they were going to have a shot at hitting their number this quarter. (Or even next quarter!)
Not only will this rep miss quota, they’ll develop a bad reputation with their manager as someone who can’t be counted on to bring in their commitments. And that’s not a good place to be.
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Perils of Premature Celebration
Celebrating too early can jinx things. It’s like when a football player starts celebrating before reaching the end zone, only to get tackled at the last second. You might slack off in nurturing the lead, thinking it’s already won.
Complacency sets in, and that’s a sales killer. You might not follow up as diligently or address potential concerns because you’re convinced it’s all good. Maybe you sense a hint of concern during the demo. But instead of pulling on it to find the root, you move on to the next feature. You lose the deal and wonder what went wrong.
Your sales manager isn’t going to be thrilled if that happens. When those promising deals fall through, it can hurt your reputation within the team. That’s not a fun place to be.
Stay sharp, ask good questions, and keep your celebrations in check until the ink is dry.
Tuning Your Ears to Reality
Staying grounded, continuing to focus on what your customer is saying, and never counting deals before they close are the best ways to avoid happy ears. Here are some ways to keep your ears tuned to reality and make sure you’re not just hearing what you want to hear.
Ask These Three Questions — And Listen for the Right Answers
We love this strategy that Krysten Conner shared on LinkedIn. She admitted that she was prone to getting happy ears early in her career until a mentor shared this approach with her.
Ask these three questions:
- Why Anything?
- Why Now?
- Why Us?
Follow this one rule:
- None of the answers can mention any of your product’s features as the reason. The buyer can ONLY mention a product feature IF they know the outcome it creates or prevents.
If the prospect can’t answer the three questions with metrics, you need to dive deeper with discovery — or move on. (Don’t let it turn into a Zombie Opp…)
Conner gave this example of what the strategy looks like for a past deal at UserGems:
Why Anything? Pipeline creation was the strategic initiative for an executive buyer (RVP Sales). They had an aggressive goal: 17% YoY increase. This explained why they were in the market for any kind of solution.
Why Now? The year was halfway over, and the buyer needed to make progress on their aggressive growth goal quickly. They knew UserGems can be implemented in under 60 days (feature), which means there’s time to impact H2 pipe, and even H2 revenue (impact).
Why Us? RVP knew that her biggest competitor started with UserGems last year and they are losing more deals than ever to this competitor. Plus, the RVP’s team had seen only 6% increase in ARR and 19% renewal churn. This is the data she presented to CFO as proof that 1) the strategy works & 2) there’s a high risk of doing nothing.
Balancing Optimism and Realism
Like we mentioned above, you just can’t wear rose-colored glasses all the time. Sure, it’s great to be optimistic, but reality checks are necessary. Keep a balance by verifying the information you receive.
Cultivate a mindset where you’re prepared for both positive and negative outcomes. Avoid making assumptions about a deal’s progress. Instead, rely on clear milestones and factual updates.
If you sense excitement, that’s good! Just don’t let it cloud your judgment. Stay focused on facts like the customer’s buying timeline and decision-making process. That way you can avoid misinterpretations that can lead to disappointment.
Recognizing Buying Signals
Look out for genuine buying signals. These are indicators that show a customer is ready to proceed. Unlike your wishful thinking, these signals are concrete actions or statements.
For example, a customer asking about pricing details or implementation steps is a strong signal. They’re investing time to understand the next steps, which implies interest.
Pay attention to body language in meetings or tone in calls. If a customer seems eager and asks detailed questions, they might be ready to buy. Just make sure these signals are consistent and backed by real actions.
Keep Your Ears Open and Your Eyes on the Prize
Sales is hard. But it’s harder if you can’t balance enthusiasm with a healthy dose of skepticism. You have to recognize the difference between genuine interest and polite engagement to avoid the pitfalls of “happy ears.”
By staying grounded and asking the right questions, you can ensure your optimism is based on solid facts, not wishful thinking. Success comes from active listening, verifying information, and maintaining a realistic outlook. Keep your focus sharp, and let genuine buying signals guide you to the finish line.
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